Comments Policy

Constant Love and Learning Comments Policy

I want you to feel loved and part of the constant learning journey when you post a comment on Constant Love and Learning. I also want everyone to feel loved and part of the learning journey when posting comments on Constant Love and Learning.

As part of creating a loving environment where constant learning is nurtured, I expect people to communicate in ways that are kind, respectful, compassionate, open-minded, responsible, and resilient.

That’s why I reserve the right to delete comments and ban users as needed to keep the comment threads aligned with positive communication habits.

My top guidelines are simple: Take the time to be kind. As my parents always taught me, treat others the way you want to be treated. And If you make a mistake with how you communicate your feelings, own up to it and take a redo. Make it better.

Here’s what I like to see in comments:

• Follow your curiosity when it is safe and kind. Weigh in with smart, informed ideas that contribute further to the story.
• Give us useful, constructive criticism. Spot a typo or an error? Let me know and I will correct it. I ask that you assume the best of me, because I promise that I’m always well intentioned. Please contact me kindly and directly, either in the comments or through the contact page.
• Share your strengths and bravely share what’s hard for you. Demonstrate and share the intelligence, wisdom, and humor I know you possess. You can be proud without bragging or disrespect for others. Please also be willing to acknowledge that we all have tricky places, you included. This should be a place where people can feel safe enough to be authentic and vulnerable, to maximize the learning they can do.
• When you disagree with something or someone, communicate that with kindness. Remember it’s okay to be mad but it’s not okay to be mean. Be brave enough to stand up and speak or brave enough to sit down and listen. And please don’t feed the trolls. 

Although I can’t be everywhere at once, here are some of the kinds of comments I’m going to do my best to curtail:

• Promoting your own brand, product, or blog. It’s awesome if you have a resource to share with the community. And sending it through my contact form, so I can check it over and make sure it’s a good fit with my mission, is the best way to go. If you’re aligned with my values, this will be an easy step for you.
• Impersonating authors or other commenters. Be genuinely you and only you.
• Comments that make it clear you didn’t read the article. I’m happy to have some lively debate, and to do that, I’ll need to make sure you read the article in full and truly listened and opened your heart to my side of the story. I'm happy to hear your side of the story as long as we can both engage in positive communication. 
• Comments that are completely irrelevant. Sometimes discussions veer off a bit, but are still related to the original subject. That is fine. Hijacking the conversation to promote off-topic commentary is not okay. Please take a redo as needed.
• Threats — no matter how vague — against the author or other commenters. Emotions can get heated. It’s easy to default to unkind communication. It’s harder and much more helpful, and expected, that you use kind communication even when your feelings get big.
• Degrading comments or bullying of any kind. I understand that hurt people hurt people and will have compassion for you. That said, on this page and website, bullying of any kind isn't allowed, and degrading comments about things like race, religion, culture, sexual orientation, gender or identity will not be tolerated. I will keep this page a place where everyone feels safe, and nonviolent communication is expected at all times.